The babies aren't twins but we are, by Hannah and Lilli
‘Did you plan it?’ we hear people ask, when they see us walking together with our baby girls. We laugh to ourselves as we think about how hard it was to plan one baby let alone two! ‘Are the babies twins?’, ‘no, they’re not twins, but we are’.
Our journeys to conception were very different despite the fact we’re identical twins. Lilli found out she was pregnant in April ’17 (6 weeks before her wedding), and immediately called Hannah to tell her the news. Being a family of 4 girls who have always been very close, we knew it would be a hard task keeping such a big secret during the wedding week. So an ally in Hannah was essential! For Lilli the journey was relatively uncomplicated and she never thought that she would end up being 10 weeks pregnant on her wedding day. The fright of fitting in her wedding dress was real!
Fast forward to Lilli’s wedding in Florence – lots of pre-wedding parties with Hannah as wing-woman; finishing Lilli’s drinks, downing her shots and helping her squeeze into her wedding dress (without anyone else realising just quite how tight it was!). On the day before the wedding, Lilli was woken with a knock at her hotel room. Hannah and her husband had come to visit before heading to breakfast. Lilli was still passed out in bed with that first trimester exhaustion when Hannah announced ‘I’m pregnant!’. Let’s just say Lilli has never got out of bed so fast or so happily.
Hannah’s journey to conception was very different, with the positive result coming after many long months of ovulation tracking, negative results, gynaecology appointments and lots of frustration. So it was even sweeter for us both when we were lucky enough to conceive in such close succession.
With the wedding celebrations over and the mission of covering up the pregnant bride, (which we realized was much easier than anticipated – no one forces the bride to down anything!) it was time to break the news to the rest of the family. No one could have prepared them for the news to come – not only was there one baby, but two! Emotions were high and it sure distracted from the post-wedding comedown.
We spent the week after the wedding on the Amalfi Coast together in total pregnancy bliss. We were with our families who were still in shock and on cloud nine, and best of all, we could live through every pregnancy symptom, moan and groan together. Little did we know, we both had little girls growing inside who would eventually be born only 3.5 weeks apart. We both decided not to find out the sex of our babies, so it was even more of a shock when we both had girls. It’s funny how things work out. We count ourselves so lucky to have been able to share this incredible experience together. Looking back it was all meant to be and maternity life is that bit sweeter with your twin by your side.
As every twin out there will know, each milestone in life we have gone through together, whether we’ve liked it or not! Taking our driving test one after another, particularly horrible for the twin who had to go second after twin one had passed, was one of those times you really wish you weren’t a twin! As were collecting GCSE and A level results and knowing that you’re definitely going to be compared by everyone you know. Then there are the birthdays where you have to race your twin to open the present as you know you’re going to end up with the same, and you definitely want to find out first what it’s going to be! But with other milestones it’s very different, and having your twin by your side through pregnancy and beyond is just the best. We just never quite imagined we’d be lucky enough to experience first-time motherhood in sync, and how special it is. Our mum puts it down to fate.