Judgement-Free Motherhood By Emma Sinclair @Emmsinclair
It would seem that all it takes to be a good father is to be present in their child’s life. A mother? Think again. To be considered a good mother you cannot put a single foot wrong. Formula feeding? No. Cooking with salt? Never. A well deserved night out? Don’t even think about it.
Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs going, yet as mothers we are constantly left feeling inadequate. Why have we become obsessed with being THE best, when being OUR best should be enough?
I am a single mum of two. I am a full time student. I work as many hours as I can. It just isn’t realistic that I’m striving to be an all-baking, all-making ‘PTA Mum’ too.
I cannot blame these oh-so-perfect mothers for giving mums, like me, insecurities. I myself judge others. “She didn’t even attempt to breastfeed.” “Her child still has a dummy.” “She doesn’t make her own baby food.” But who am I to judge? I weaned my children before they were four months old and let them eat chocolate on a regular basis.
We sadly live in a time where reality becomes sugar-coated with an Instagram filter. Our newsfeeds are full of mothers posting generic ‘super-mum’ posts, trying to prove to the world what an amazing parent they are.
Why do we find this necessary? Because we know we are constantly being judged. Mothers should not be judging other mothers, just as women should not be judging other women.
As parents, we make different decisions in the way we bring up our children. Stay at home mum? Great. Working mum? Good for you. We should support these decisions and empower one another.
It is also our decision not to judge. And I for one am for judgement-free motherhood.