Birth belongs to you By Jenna Rutherford @theminimalistdoula
There is a bit of a trend at the moment with birth...let's throw everything including the kitchen sink at it, and it will be amazing and beautiful and empowering. Book the NCT course, the hypnobirthing course, let's get a doula, let's go to a home birth meeting, I need to see my osteopath for pelvic alignment, a massage therapist, a reflexologist, oh and don't forget my homeopath! There's so much pressure on having a 'natural' birth, women feel they need to do everything they can to achieve it. If you have your baby at home, even better, gold star for you. Is it just me or is everyone missing the point?!
Whatever you do, however you do it, baby is coming...yes, you don't have to do ANYTHING. Your darling babe has to come out. It is a physiological need. Your body, when it is ready, will start producing the contraction inducing oxytocin (the hormone of love) and your body will start doing it's thing. You don't have to eat pineapple, do squats, run up the stairs, you don't have to work at it. Birth is not something to pass, to achieve in the exam sense, it is a complete right of passage. You deserve to have an empowering, beautiful birth anyway. You are a woman, an amazing woman who is pregnant, and you deserve an amazing birth.
The only reason you feel like you have to do something is probably because your next door neighbour, sister, Mum, Grandma, so and so's mate told you some shocking birth story about a four day induction and you now need to do everything in your power to avoid it or something along those lines, and you're scared. When you get pregnant, there are so many voices, opinions, hands on your bump, you seem to become everyone's property and with this, everyone can make a mark on you. And absolutely the NCT, the hypnobirthing, the doula, the massage will help alleviate some of the fears that have been put into your head but only you can drown them out completely. Yes birth is physical but it is emotional too. I have supported women whose labour has stalled and after a short conversation, a verbal release of a fear, labour has started again. I have seen babies roared out, breathed out and babies who have floated into their mother's arms, and these Mamas were out of their heads. They were emotionally free, they were fearless, present and listening to their bodies and their babies. They were warrior mamas, they conquered not just the physical pain but the emotional challenges too.
You are all warrior Mamas. Face your fears, find your inner warrior and birth with freedom.
Jenna Rutherford is The Minimalist Doula
Co founder of DoulaNatal, antenatal workshops for birth confidence www.doulanatal.co.uk