Sugar-coating you way through motherhood by Lindsey Ware @linz_xx
Being a Mum to Lottie and Rupert is the most rewarding and fulfilling job I have ever had. But as a mother of two under two I am so over reading, watching and hearing the sugarcoated, filtered versions of motherhood. From the ‘I don’t remember my life without him/her’, to the ‘my child never had a tantrum, not once, nope never’. This might very well be the case. But from someone who’s toddler has on average five tantrums a day, and who’s four month old is currently teething and constipated, I find it hard to believe and am more than happy to offer up views on the above quotes.
Do I remember my pre baby life? Hell yes! The TGIF feeling at the end of a hectic week. The weekend lie ins (literally anything past 7am currently would be amazing). Or the Grey’s Anatomy boxset I would binge watch while nursing a horrendous hangover completely guilt free. All while demolishing a takeaway that didn't include a small being standing in front of me fingering my food saying ‘more’. I even miss just leaving the house quickly without reaching for a baby bag, whilst a child fills a nappy again or decides to throw a tantrum about not wanting to leave Mr Tumble.
Now let's confront the ‘my child never had a tantrum, not once, nope never’ talk. Is it just me who can’t get to grips with the ‘easy’ rules that the Three Day Nanny prescribes? Lottie is now in the corner rolling around on the floor screaming ‘NOOOO, I WANT DADDY’ (in her new evil deep tone, which makes me wonder if it’s actually an exorcism thats needed rather than the naughty step). Tantrums are a daily occurrence in our house hold. I recently had the worst experience of my parenting life when trying to make my first solo outing to the park with both children in tow, Roo in the carrier and Lottie walking. We didn’t even make it to the end of the road before Lottie went full beast mode, dropping to the floor, screaming like I had just banned the viewing of Peppa pig on our tv (a mum can dream)! Thirty minutes it took to do a thirty second walk back home whilst neighbours came to their door to help and stare! I of course called my fiancé and blamed him, even if he was in a different country on rugby camp it felt like his fault, well it sure wasn't mine! So if it is true, and you have had a tantrum free children then ok… I don’t believe you!
So although I love my current life with my two tiny humans I, unlike the sugar coaters cannot say that I do not sometimes long for a day or two of my old tantrum free life.
Ana and Elsa’s babysitting shift has finished… back to mum mode.