Stop telling me to sleep!
From the moment we see the blue lines on our pregnancy test we are told to rest, sleep, relax and nap.
Sleep becomes such a huge part of our life. Have you ever googled 'Sleep', ok maybe a stupid question on a motherhood blog but 850,000,000 results come up in less than a second, hundreds of thousands of those results are in the parent and baby category. If we are not talking about how we are sleeping, we are being asked if the baby is sleeping and if the baby is not sleeping then there must be a problem.. probably teething, even when they are teenagers high on horse tranquillisers it will still be teething, and we do everything we can, buy every product we find on amazon at 3 in the morning ( Lauren ) that promises to make babies sleep for 14 hours straight because thats probably what we typed into Google, and we laugh as we put in our PayPal details for this breast feeding cow that mimics our scent and rocks for 20 hours straight whilst blaring out white noise at a thousand decibels. It only to be returned the next day for not immediately fixing all sleep problems.
The funny thing about sleep is, if we stop talking about it we wont feel so tired. Try telling that to Mumsnet. That feed would make any toddler drowsy, if only they could read. Although that is a true story, when we start to mention lack of sleep and tap into the thought of how tired you are, we are only making ourselves feel more tired. WTF! As per, we are our own worst enemies. And did you know sleep deprivation is a form of torture. Lack of sleep for extended periods reduces your decision making ability making you more open to persuasion. DING, lightbulb. HOW DO THEY KNOW?!
I would get frustrated when hearing people telling Lauren she must 'get as much sleep as possible now before baby comes'. BUT I am also guilty, there has been times the words are falling out of my mouth onto a pregnant souls ears and I'm hating myself but its too late I can not take them back now. I have told this poor pregnant lady to get up to bed and sleep for 9 solid months because then and only then will she be fully prepared for her new born. That and the alternative chat that falls under, labour horror stories and what if you think its ugly? Past experiences always push me towards telling them to sleep.
Now my kids are getting older I don't want to nap, especially when the alternative to being asleep is peace and quite and some time to finish a brew and watch a whole episode of the Kardashians without Nell asking me what 'Slore' means or sharing anything. Sometimes I want to be awake even if that means I'm tired. Hell, I was awake and tired for majority of my university years and everyone says they are the best days of your life. I don't want to waste any of my day light hours on sleep, because when I am asleep I can not appreciate being asleep because I am ASLEEP. I know, how stupid does that sounds. But being awake and tired gives me a chance to miss them a little bit, I get an hour deep into their nap time and I'm lost. I remember why I love being a mum, no matter how hard it sometimes is, I think we as mothers are allowed to wish we could do whatever the f*@k we wanted, no strings attached ( I don't mean have an affair, I'm just talking about leaving the house without a pack of wet wipes), without getting rained on by guilt, but only for a second and then I want to wake them up just so they can annoy me some more and force me to share.
Sleep is important. I need a full 8 hours if I am expected to even dress myself (my neighbours know this!), so of all people, I know! But please can we all just agree to stop telling mums to nap when baby naps...?