It's not you... it's me
Too selfish to co-sleep?
Hats off to you co-sleeper mums. I always wonder if I could of been in your club...but then I laugh and get back to my child free evening with a big bottle of Prosecco and all the Kardashians. Don't get me wrong, I tried-if it wasn't for the experiences with my first born I might have made it, but sleeping with a sweaty baby race horse isn't easy, nor revitalising.
There are thousands, if not bazillions of contradicting articles for parents, nearly all on the subject of sleep, not to mention the forums, full of over opinionated mothers who believe every child is the same and that Gina Ford shits glitter. I would say sleep is a topic that occurs most in the early years of parenting. What is right? What works? Where is the manual that comes with this thing I just birthed? WHERE IS THE OFF BUTTON? and don't get me wrong I am the first to click on the buzz feed link for 'Top 10 tips to get your 3 day old to sleep through the night'.
NOT ALL BABIES ARE THE SAME ...and neither are the parents.
I need uninterrupted conversations, I need time when its just my man and me, and I need my sleep.
If being a better mum means bedtime is at 7 and you crack open the wine. Then bedtime is at 7 and you crack open the wine. If you want to be kicked in the tits all night, then you co-sleep the shit out of those night time hours and embrace those perfectly formed, bony little toes.
Trust your instinct, don't read all the shit...
You're doing the right thing.